How do I act?

[Surviving03]

so just an update on H counseling... apparently the C asked him questions dating back to the beginning of our M, all the way back to dating, which included talks of how my H was on and off seeing another girl when we were first dating... and how that led to fights and conflicts in the future for us... my H told C of all the bad things, of course cause thats how he feels right now...apparenlty C told H that he was stupid to marry me and I was stupid to marry him... there was writing on the wall all over that it wasnt going to work. He said that we both dont believe in change.. I dont believe H has changed which is why i snoop all the time and bring up the past (which i do NOT, I stopped doing that after we got married and decided past is the past, i snoop NOW cause things are happening, but H is delusional and thinks it happens all the time) and that H doesnt beleive i will change from doing that or from fighting... C said that even if we wanted it to work it would be a long hard road.... so thats great! C just made my H feel totally validated in his delusions...