Poet, it's a rollercoaster ride. For a while you feel like you're getting on with life and then it hits you again. The trick is not to put too much credence in the downs or the ups but to accept that this is the way you are today and recognize that either one will not last. I find that I put way too much credence in both the ups and downs and am therefore overly concerned when a few good days suddenly out of nowhere become a down day or two. The ride will even out but it takes different times for different people. I used to think that "in X time so and so should be over it" but now that I'm there I realize that this is not a beast that can be tamed in a specific time period. It's a devastating life event, probably and hopfully the worst you'll ever go through. Be kind to yourself and seek out support as you did by approaching your priest. I've met with my Pastor a few times, most recently when my best friends wife left him. It's amazing what comes up emotionally when something like that happens to a good friend. My Pastor sat and listened to my talk and cry for two hours and at the end he hugged me and thanked me for trusting him. It helps! You will overcome, just be gentle with yourself, OK?
