in the end TD I don't want you to be an a$$hole or a prick, you can smile, you can nod, just don't get brought down to her level, in fact you have to project that your level is a notch higher than hers, in fact that's where it is but you've been trying to match her at her level, this isn't a game of one-upmanship (if that's even a word), in the end you have to be better because that's your goal in life, always to be better.
This is her loss, her mistake, let her deal with it.
RB: I don't want to be an a$$hole either, it is good to be reminded of that when seemingly always being set up or criticized.
The concept of integrity seems to be what you are getting to. Turning the other cheek so to speak. I'll keep in mind that this is her choice - her loss. It is not my job to lessen her guilt or remorse. She'll have to explain it to our kids!
