Eye of the storm?

[cyclone]

Have you read the 5 love languages book?
What is your LL and what is your W?

I have. I think mine is acts of service and hers is physical touch.

I am going to guess that yours is touch. But are you sure that your W is the same?
Maybe not. Maybe you need to express this in other ways.

I do a great job with doing acts of service (my LL). I need to continue to work on the other 4. I could be wrong about hers being physical touch but she has criticized me specifically for the lack of that one in our past R.

Thanks, OP, for your observations. Sometimes others are able to see clearly what we cannot. I will look deeper.