It is a two way street. He needs to know the good things, that they are there. That is what this new marriage needs to be built on, the new.
You can read in your post that you are still doing the same thing...bringing up pain for both of you. It is good to talk about what you need but quit bringing her into it. This isn't about her anymore, this is about the two of you together. Maybe time for a different approach on that. If you keep picking at a wound, it will never heal.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory