OP, thanks for stopping by.
The only actions have been financial - not stopping me spending how I like from our joint accounts, and working very hard at finding employment so he can bring new money in.

Otherwise he stays away. I think because of 1. fear of fatherhood and 2. the A.

p.s. I don't think he is true MLC because he didn't have depression in lead-up, but rather a truckload of pressures which came to a head at the same time.

Sorry to ask again but is there a difference between an MLC and a nervous breakdown?