I'm sorry GF, I missed your post above about your H accusing you of cheating. Your H sounds like he is projecting on you to justify his actions. Sometimes it is their guilt of what they've done or thinking about doing that makes them do this. You've told him you haven't and that's all you can do. You can't control him or his thoughts and actions.
As far as him making fun of you, the changes he sees in you may be threatening to him. He wants to have you where he left you. Those changes have to be for you and if they're helping you that's what counts. Do not worry about what your alien thinks about them at this stage, he's not rational.
I see that your D is 13 now. I still believe the things that your H has around his place are inappropriate for her to see. You can set a boundary with your H if you agree. There is a way to set them without being overly confrontational and in a kind way. Hopefully it struck a chord with him by how your D reacted by seeing it.
You're getting some great advice and posts here from some very experienced DBers. Listen to them GF and take it to heart. You will get through this and be stronger for it. (((Hugs)))
