Any contact you have that YOU initiate with OW, to me, smacks of your feeling desperate and as though you are losing. Don't go there - it will just make OW feel empowered. I don't think she will give a rats a$$ about your H's history....or you. Don't give her that power. Any contact I had with OW may have made me feel good for about a minute.......and then bad for a LONG TIME after...............because it let her know she had gotten to me. It strengthened her and made her feel she was in with more of a chance and so it was worth keeping fighting for my H. Oh, and my H loved the thought of two women fighting over him - yum, yum
As for involving the children - well I found that very effective in my own sitch. They weren't meant to know but they gathered what was going on from all that was being screamed back and forth between hubby and I, and there influence did hold some sway - esp when my D, (who was 13 at the time), phoned OW and told her what she thought of her, (which I didn't know she was doing.I didn't know she had lifted the number out of my H's mobile). However, if all the children are step children, I would question where there ultimate loyalties may be. Is it worth risking finding out?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
