Sch My H doesn't seem to want to make any decisions (accept for leaving us) He wants everything to be as before accept he is in his apartment which cost us $1,000 a month on the top of all of our regular expenses and that we can't afford. He just doesn't seem to care. When I brought it up (that we can't afford it) he said "Where am I supposed to live?" or "I don't spend much just for my apartment and little bit for food". Like he is entitled and nothing else matters, even if it gets us deeper into debt.

And when I agonize about finances and bring up selling the house he doesn't like it. He just wants so refinance it, like he doesn't realize that's just borrowing more money.

SC I see that you are going through similar problems. We are all in the same boat. The financial entanglement sure make this much more stressful. I wish that I was financially independent it would make this easier.

Hey but we will get through this, we are strong girls and we have no choice but be "supper women" while our dear H are off in lala land

Take care of yourself (((hugs)))

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO