She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

i don't read anything into this, but positive is always better than negative. I kept my composure and stayed firm when I needed to be. i was also supportive when it was warranted.

You are reading into it. You can't help it. You're reading into it as a positive thing. Your BEST position, is to really not read anything into it at all...positive or negative.

What if a crystal ball appeared and you could see the separation was the only way you guys could actually work through your issues and get back together? What if you could see that it can only be this way?If you could see that it all works out in the future what would you be feeling right now?

All events are ultimately neutral. The meaning is assigned by us relative to whether they seemingly get us closer (good) to our goal or further (bad) from our goal.

The bottom line is this - How do you know if something is bringing you toward or away? My W and I had sex a month before she told me she wanted to D. You can imagine which direction I thought we were heading after the sex...lol. It wasn't the direction it really moved in.

My point is this - You can't assign good or bad to anything. You can in hindsight, but you can't in real time.

The conversation was an event. You did what you had to do as it unfolded in the moment. It's gone now...nothing but a memory. The only life it has is in your mind. Leave it in the past and keep your eyes right in front of you.

tbart you appear to be doing fine. Just keep dropping your expectations, assumptions and attempts to guess the future.