That is a twisted tale. I don't believe in the "married your mom" or "had an affair with your Mom" school of psychology. I think we all have triggers and anyone, male or female, can trigger the unresolved stuff. A male boss at work could trigger it for your H for example. I do believe it may be easier for an angry woman to trigger it. But I don't believe people subconsicously seek it out to "repair" it. Stuff just happens and then people freak out because their unresolved issues are triggered. My H has projected a ton on me too from both his mother, father, and other issues. So I feel your pain on that one. I've had real problems sorting out reality from projection in this. I asked friends and family of mine to help so I could get a clear picture of what I needed to work on and what was projected. Turns out there was some of both. The weirdest stuff was projected however. ANd my actual problems that I need to work in were twisted in H's mind to resemble his triggers. All kind of weird. Of course he could think something totally different by now. We don't discuss it much anymore and some of the original bomb accusations may not be the same.
