I appreciate that thought RR... my H has said, though, that in IC he has identified that OW is much more like his mother than me. I'm a polar opposite to his mom, and he now feels he may have been attracted to OW (at least partly) because of her similar issues with mom and a subconcious desire to "fix" that....
But, I have to say, that while H was in the A, I often got accused by H of being "just like his mom". He has since apologized for that. In over 20 years together prior to the A he had never accused me of that before. I think he was "projecting" the issues he was having with OW already on to me at that time.
