Did you ever tell him that if he didn't give up the weed/alcohol that you couldn't be happy with him, or did you ever hint at it?
Also, do you think that the hiding behind the drug is the problem, or the drug? In other words, if he said he wants to end it but it would take a couple years, would that be enough?
BTW - 60% of ADHD adults without meds are drug users (not me, except for coffee...lucky for me it's against our religion!)
