I read on posts that they are hurting inside deeply and put on masks to make it look like they are happy. Is that true? I just don't get all of the stuff that goes on with a MLC?
Yes this is true. It is what is called masked depression. It is very common in MLC. The OM/OW gives them the power to put on a happy face. It is a quick fix, a drug, however when this fails then they fall into a deep depression. That depression is obvious to all and some times the MLC'er wants to commit suicide during this state.
A lot of this information is in the resources.
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How do I respond to him about the dating thing not being a good idea?
I would try to avoid talking at all, part of your detach/NC but if you must communicate then yes validate. "I understand how you feel"
Keep reading and posting and as time goes along this will get easier.
