TTA-i can meet him in his emotional storm. the fact that i've been there for him at a time when it was so hard for me to feel anything but anger and sadness, i think that's meeting him in the storm. i've certainly let him know that i miss him, i think about him, and i am here for him. not overly so, but he knows i am here. what he choses to do with that is up to him, and i just have to accept that it is out of my hands. all i can do is offer my support and go on with my life the best way i know how. i just don't know why that's so easy to say and so flippin hard to do...
..agreed. It isn't an easy thing to do at all. I think you are doing a great job. There isn't much more you can say at this point. I think you have made it very clear where you stand and what your feelings are. I think reiterating these things don't do any good. It is so hard to not want to speak or see your H because you are afraid of 'Out of sight..out of mind'. Hang in there...try to keep your head above all of this. He needs to want to change..finding a coping mechanism besides alcohol and weed..he is in a crisis right now- and hopefully these are things that he is thinking about. You cannot force change in him. Perhaps the IC will be able to point some of these things out to him.
