Don't talk to OW about anything-if she cared about what you thought she wouldn't be having an A with your H. She will probably think you are either lying or she can change your H.

I wouldn't tell OW's H about this place. It is your sanctuary and OW might get wind of it from her H.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength