The latest with me

[ImprovedRomeo]

Did ask her to update you? If the school said she was ok, and when your W picked her up she was ok, she was probably ok... If you want an update, either ask for one, or, call her!

Yes I suppose I just thought it was common courtesy to update the parent who was worried about the kid.

Can I offer a suggestion? Why don't you call HER at nights? Then it takes burden off of the parent who has her, and you don't sit around waiting for a call, building resentment, if you don't receive one. If they're not home, or if it's not convenient to talk, leave a message and ask for a return call.

I usually do and this time she wouldn't answer the phone which is what made me upset.

This probably wouldn't have been my first choice for evening activities w/a borderline sick child either, BUT you're not in charge of her at the the time, and you can't see how she's feeling. And, don't fuss over a missed bedtime or two. It happens, and if it doesn't, you're too rigid! HOWEVER, if something happens that is really harming D6 and/or not good for her mental and/or physical health, it's entirely your business. None of the above is, frankly. SORRY! HUGS

I guess I'm protective of my DD and it's hard to letit go but I realize what you guys are saying and I need to work on it.

Romeo, this is all so totally unhealthy for your SELF. You need to find SO MANY other things to fill your time!!! I understand, more than anyone, being separated from my D (my D18 saw her alcoholic father fairly frequently growing up, and I worried NON-STOP), but you have to LET IT GO. Unless Mom is a BAD MOM, let it go, and enjoy yourself.

I realize it but to me she's not the best mom to do this in the first place. Yes I'm angry at her right now.

No, you don't. You need to learn to love yourself first. You need to learn to enjoy time by yourself first. You need interest in doing things w/others (not your W and/or D) by yourself first.

And, think about this... what kind of girlfriend wants a boyfriend obsessing about how he looks to his W and what his daughter is doing. not doing, all day?

You have some work to do, oh Romeo.... What a great baseline to build from, though! A loving, caring, smart, guy, w/a gorgeous little girl.

You can do this!

Maybe not a girlfriend but a female pal. Sometimes I really wish I had someone I could talk to or go out to movies with etc. Someone I could hug - damn! so much for trying to be like Clint Eastwood lol

I really don't have a problem being by myself and alone. I am alone most of the time, I was alone for 2.5 years before - will I survive on my own? will I go out and do things alone? yes, sure but is this how I want to be for the foreseeable future? no, that's not me. I know some people choose to be single and celebist forever but that's not me.