I will second sandi's advice. Her moving into OM's house will give their romance some reality. A good dose of that won't hurt you. When she leaves, your response to the world should be..."She moved into a love nest OM set up for them." Being the OW can't be fun. When he's not there to meet her needs and you aren't either? Hmmmmm. not so romantic anymore. When she comes second ALL THE TIME? Not so romantic anymore. YOu stay out of it!

For now, I suggest you back off your insistence she change her behavior. You have stated your boundary. Now, be polite but no more trying to convince her. She is using that to justify her affair. The 180 list is around here somewhere...read it again.

Let go of the fear of her leaving. It will be ok. She is SUE from Harley's SAA. I'm sure your outcome will be the same. Maybe not until OMW puts up boundaries of her own or Your W gets sick of poor treatment from OM. Their A will end (my crystal ball tells me so!)




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