I do think, that if nothing else but for appearances, you should do this. Give her an audience, but preface it with "as soon as you start lying to me, this conversation is over."
And then follow up on that.
Then you can tell her family "I tried to talk to her, but she keeps lying to me, and I'm not going to sit there and listen to that -- it insults my intelligence, and it's incredibly disrespectful to our marriage."
NIIIICE!!
Yep, an opportunity to grant her an audience. It will be on your terms and you control the agenda. Oh, and if you want to really stir the pot... as soon as she starts lying again... simply hang up.
Ok, when do you think I can do this? And when you say, audience that means phone only or in person?
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
I do think, that if nothing else but for appearances, you should do this. Give her an audience, but preface it with "as soon as you start lying to me, this conversation is over."
And then follow up on that.
Then you can tell her family "I tried to talk to her, but she keeps lying to me, and I'm not going to sit there and listen to that -- it insults my intelligence, and it's incredibly disrespectful to our marriage."
NIIIICE!!
Yep, an opportunity to grant her an audience. It will be on your terms and you control the agenda. Oh, and if you want to really stir the pot... as soon as she starts lying again... simply hang up.
Ok, when do you think I can do this? And when you say, audience that means phone only or in person?
It depends on to what degree you think you can convey a detached strength and hold it together. If you think you can do that in person, I think it would be MOST effective for her to see you steely and calm and detached. If you don't think you can, then do it by phone, and as Gno says, end the conversation if she starts to lie to you ("OK, we BOTH know you're lying to me right now, so this conversation is over. Goodbye.")