Well, I think you can maybe understand why his ex wife is so difficult can't you?

I am not slighting you, I honestly think you are in an excellent position to know what's happening with your H from the OW's side since you've been there.

How do you combat romance addiction?

Reality, its the only way to combat a fantasy. He needs treatment for this.

But the first order of business is getting RID of OW. You can't do a dent while she's attacking your marriage right?

You have to at some point set some boundaries though... right now it looks like you are willing to take your H back no consequences.. if you do that, he's just going to do this again.