Our divorce mediator & W made an appointment for tomorrow. I had told W I didn't see the need now that things are improving. She thinks it is good to do anyhow.

I pretty sure this will be a catch 22. If I keep to my musts, she'll get angry and more defensive. Likely, to prove her strength, she'll want to make some point to which I'll overreact in some way.

This is an example of why getting D off the table isn't so easy - she still isn't convinced that she wants to stay.