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I'm just less than convinced those cell records are going to really be definitive. Though last night makes me wonder. But I would think that he would be smart enough to use another phone, unless he really believes that you can't get to the records from this one. This guy is a puzzler.

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hang in there mindfull. I have read your sitch just never posted. just been lurking for months.

Even if you spend all of that money on cell phone records and obtain them will it help your sitch? H probably won't admit it anyways and you'd probably spend hours checking records and numbers just to hit another snag.


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James -

Thank you for the post. I appreciate it.

I've been at this a LONG time. And, I Db'd (or thought I was DB'ing) myself into a shell of my former self. If you've been following along, I only recently, really since early February or so, started to feel like me again.

So, it's time. It's time to rid myself of this resentment that's building up. I need to see the phone records. I need to know if there is a number, or a few numbers that have a high level of activity. If not, then, my other two parallel paths will be in place. If so, I'll strangle him! (J/K) But, I will take some stealth advice on how to handle it. I'm not sure it's something I can forgive. And, I hope to not be presented with the need to decide.

THANK you for coming by! smile


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Jeff,

... as I told you on IM (just in case someone else is wondering)... our cell account is password protected. My H's drivers cell's are on our account. They can't have access to it, or we'd be broke! I'm not asking him for the password for fear of throwing up a red flag.

Another phone? I'm SURE in his mind it would not be needed. I don't access our account, and I haven't alerted him that I would want to.

He might, though, hey... WTF do I know?

I know one thing. I'm not liking any of this, NOR am I liking this resentment that's building up.


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Try not to borrow trouble from the future. I could be days before you have definitive info (((MF)))


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MF can you just "lose" your cell conveniently for a day or so and innocently ask H to use his to call your mum !


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Originally Posted By: mindfull
James -

Thank you for the post. I appreciate it.

I've been at this a LONG time. And, I Db'd (or thought I was DB'ing) myself into a shell of my former self. If you've been following along, I only recently, really since early February or so, started to feel like me again.

So, it's time. It's time to rid myself of this resentment that's building up. I need to see the phone records. I need to know if there is a number, or a few numbers that have a high level of activity. If not, then, my other two parallel paths will be in place. If so, I'll strangle him! (J/K) But, I will take some stealth advice on how to handle it. I'm not sure it's something I can forgive. And, I hope to not be presented with the need to decide.

THANK you for coming by! smile


colossions 3:13 you have to forgive even if you find out anything otherwise god wont forgive you.

can u look over my sitch for me? I promise you once u see mine then look back at yours youll see the positives in your own


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Flo - I totally hear ya!

Blownaway - If he was ever here, I could! He travels during the week for work, only home for brief times. He'd have a new one for me in a heartbeat if I lost it. We don't have a home line, etc... Although, I would like a new phone!

Keep 'em comin'!


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James. Will do.


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Hey mind,
cut back on shopping and pay for the 600$. Once the idea entered your mind, it will only HARM you not to act on it. If he comes clean, that would give you more strength to go on, if not (which I hope isnt the case) you will know what you are up against.
Dont be afraid,
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