He is a romance addict, coupled with having an inability to face problems. I don't know which problems made him come to me, but the first EA was when his son came to live with us, we had financial problems and his ExW was being a total witch, plus I had started volunteering for a dog rescue organization and not spending time with him. This time it's financial, twins came to live with us, ExW being nutcase, etc. When I read in her book that some are romance addicts, I had a chill because my first thought was "how do you combat that?"
My thought also was "can it hurt?" Maybe it can help, who knows. It's not refundable... I called our host couple and they are looking for someone with experience to speak to me over the phone. Even in all of this, I believe in this man. I know he's an alien now, a liar, and so many other unattractive things... but I believe in him with all of my heart and soul. I know that inside he wants to remain married and if he had his way, he'd never be in this position. He's also addicted to the infatuation chemicals.
