Passenger, please post on the Retrouvaille thread about how to handle exposure WRT to Retro. I gave you the link in the other thread. People who have been to it (esp Lotus) will be able to advise you.
Also, please read through the thread that I linked to above. That poster has been coached through the process by quite a few of the vets (though you're getting great help here too ), but more familiarity with what works will help you to plan a strategy for your sitch. The vets pretty much advise the same approach in most sitches.
Remember to breathe and don't do anything without a plan. You are probably not in a condition to do anything today, for example.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
), but more familiarity with what works will help you to plan a strategy for your sitch. The vets pretty much advise the same approach in most sitches.