For one, I want to wish you the best of luck on your journey. Your realizations that you are coming out of a fog and that you want to work on things with your H are a wonderful gift.
I want to make sure I understand the situation.
* You filed for divorce and are living with OM. * Your husband wants you to come back, but is displaying all of the behaviors that we tell people not to do. (Crying, begging, etc.) * You want to work on reconciliation. * You have been doing IC but your husband has not. There has been no MC.
It sounds like one of the first things you can do when you get back is attend joint marriage counseling with him. This should give you a forum where you can safely discuss the issues YOU are having with the relationship. I would probably ask him to attend individual IC as well.
If you are both interested in working on the R, I would recommend attending a Retrouvaille weekend. It can do wonders for helping you two reconnect and learn to communicate better with each other. You can find out more information at http://helpourmarriage.org/
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
