Is he reconnecting or is this just touch and go's?

[hopingforchange]

This week my H has seemed on 2 occasions to be starting to do some thinking.
On Monday he text S saying 'I know I have hurt you I am sorry.
And yesterday he siad to S in person 'I know I don't deserve it after what I have done ' (This was refering to S replying to his texts)
Does this sound like my H is starting to 'Wake up'.
or is it just usual MLC speak???
Previously he couldn't see he had done anything wrong.

[seeking answers]

HFC, Sounds like he is peeking out of the tunnel. Keep your seat and continue to watch the show. Do not bring any of this up or question your H about it.

[hopingforchange]

Thanks SA
I am so confused as OW is very much in the picture.
Am I right in thinking OW can still be around during the acceptance stage??

[rr22]

He may feel guilt towards the children but it doesn't mean he understands or is even processing or acknowledging what he has done to you yet.

[rr22]

This situation is insane. I just read your thread. 19 years old when this began? It will definitely end, but there could be another one after it if he doesn't deal with his issues. This sounds like rollercoaster of a lifetime. I'm sorry you're going through this and it sounds like you are doing a great job being there for yourself and your children. Best of luck to you. You sound like a very kind person to even consider waiting this foolishness out.

[seeking answers]

HFC - If the ow is still present I think your H may just be having a moment of clarity.

[hopingforchange]

Thanks rr22 and seeking answers
This sure is a rolercoaster from hell, I can tell you.
I like many others have been though so much, but I have managed to get the detaching down to a 'fine art'.
It is only when things change I start to wonder if this maybe the end.
I have definitely noticed a chane over the past week.
H has never mentioned the hurt he has caused his kids before.
Our D has not spoken to H since he left in June. He has spoken to me by text at how this is 'killing him'.
I guess we can just sit back and watch and wait.
Thanks again

[Cadet]

Am I right in thinking OW can still be around during the acceptance stage??

Short answer NO.
I think seeking answers answered you properly. I am sorry to say until the OW is gone you have a ways to go.

[hopingforchange]

Not much has happened recently. S saw H again this weekend. S says he was very quiet and hardly said anything at all. Usually he is all me me me. No texts now for about 10 days.
Watching and waiting.

[mermaid]

Hoping,

Two years of mlc is just a short time in mlc years. Do not waste your life away waiting. As long as your h is still with ow then he is in replay. Replay lasts forever and then some. In the meantime what are you doing for you. What about your children. It is time to live your life and take care of your children. In short you have to GAL and help your children do the same. It could take years for your h to wake up. You need to detach and stop trying to figure out what he is doing. Just live your life.