She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

my wife called and we talked for almost an hour. It was a very civil conversation.

She talked about all the work she had been doing on our mobile home than we plan to both live in while we're not at the house. She said it was boosting her self-esteem, and to be honest she sounded great. I also told her that I could see that and i was both surprised and proud of her for what she was doing at the trailer.

She mentioned a couple times about how the old W was starting to come back. Her and her cousin got into an argument, and my wife stood toe to toe. her cousin said that was great because that was more like my W.

She also said she had an aha moment the other day. My d is grounded and she kept calling her trying to get ungrounded. My d asked for a compromise, and my w said no. Her aha moment was that she wasn't going to compromise anymore.

The reality is that she didn't always compromise. She said that was her feeling and no one was going to change that. I told her I would never try to change her feeling. I did ask why it seemed she kept trying to tell me the old w was back. She said she wasn't trying to, but that she was just noticing. I told I had noticed as well and that I thought it was great.

She mentioned something about us having our talk, and how she thought there would be some arguing. I told her she would be pleasantly surprised at the fact that there will be no arguing. i told her i would get up and walk away before I let that happen. she was very pleased to hear that and she said she was glad.

I also told her i had scheduled a mountain climbing trip for myself in Sep. She asked why i scheduled it so late and i told her i didn't want to be gone during the summer. She said we wouldn't be doing anything anyway. told her i didn't want to be away from the kids again so soon and that they were my priority. She told me she was very glad too hear that.

she's going to have the close family member that I've been talking to during all this visiting the weekend I get home. She's going to have her come help paint the trailer. The family member is going through a D and has self-esteem problems herself. She'll now have someone with her when I get home, and I'll be at the house with the girls for the first week and a half when I get home.

it was a good conversation, by far the best we've had in quite awhile. I could definitely tell the difference in her tone that she is starting to come out of her funk. That can only be good for everyone.

She talked about me helping at the trailer when I got back, and also around the house. I get to spend quality time with my girls, and she'll get a much needed break. Since I've been gone for 6 months it's been all her. She was also thrilled to hear i have already talked to a C.

It was a good conversation that was mostly positive. It was friendly, which is a good first step. She can see the difference in me and I can see the difference in her. It's a long road ahead, but hopefully we can continue to keep things civil and friendly.

i just wanted to give everyone an update. i don't read anything into this, but positive is always better than negative. I kept my composure and stayed firm when I needed to be. i was also supportive when it was warranted.