Moving here, just confirmed, several avenues -help

[saffie]

The exposure is a timing thing, and a big part of that is you assessing impact.

That is SO important.

I don't know how much Retro will help if your H's heart is elsewhere, but it might just bring him round. Some people have gone even though the A was still ongoing.

You could try going there and then exposing afterwards if Retro doesn't seem to bring your H back to you. My big question though is how can you be honest with one another if your H is still involved with OP when you go? Bit of a catch 22.

However Retro could give you the tools to communicate better and also give you the tools to know how to expose in an effective way as I believe the weekend is about ways of communicating amongst other things.