Show of hands - expose or not - success stories

[saffie]

It is a "long hard road" whichever fork you take, Saffie. One can either sit passively, do the "Little Bo-Peep" thing, and after a year or two (or three, or more), IF their self-esteem is still intact and their family's finances aren't totally drained, hope that once the OM/OW dumps their cheating spouse, they can work on their marriage. And they'll STILL have all that hard work left to do.

Or they can choose to bust the affair aggressively, and begin the tough work of reconciliation much, much sooner.

He asked for a show of hands -- I raised mine.

Puppy

Completely agree Puppy.

Thing is, have you read the other threads she has going? I think just a quick answer like that was not quite what she is looking for at the moment. That was all I was trying to state.

I wasn't not condoning the exposure method or any other method. I just feel that perhaps passenger is hoping/ looking for a quick fix answer - which the older posters know doesn't usually exist.

Also the fact that she has a weekend at Retrouvaille booked shortly I think complicates matters somewhat.

I am worried that passenger is going to get mixed and strange messages by posting in different places whilst she is in what feels a bit like a frenzy.

I know this thread doesn't give that appearance, but she really needs to think for 24-48hrs before acting IMO.

Hopefully that is what she will do and she is using this time to just collect as many view points as she can, which she can either use or disgard, depending on how they apply to her sitch.