Your update brightens my morning LR . I know this week has been brutal, but it's truly a good sign that connection is deepening in spite of the crisis.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
This sounds great! You are slowly climbing up the rungs of the ladder again. I think he understands. He just doesn't seem to want or be able to use words to express or communicate with you about the grief over this past year. Not sure about how that is for you when you like words.
I'm very excited he went to find a walking group near where you live. This is good for a thousand reasons.
I think this is going to be a much better week for you as far as PMA goes. Good luck to you!
Youre right RR he never was a man of a lot of words, but he needs to communicate and I can use my gobbiness to at least lead him to a place of compromise where he feels its acceptable to say what he wants in his life, not just steam roller over him which used to happen because he never said!
Compromise and Communication are the new buzz words in the Rabbit household..
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Yes, he's going to feel steamrolled over if he never learns or tries to open his moouth. You can only do so much from your end. Yes, you are now aware it is an issue. But he could really benefit from some communication from his end. I like your new buzzwords!
Interesting conversation last night! H was teasing me about talking too much the other night and kept kissing me to keep me quiet, well it has turned into a silly game between us..
THEN last night when this started, he stopped looked dead pan straight at me and said "no kisses we can talk" then laughed and said "only joking".. So I threw it back and said "ohh theres lots to talk about but not tonight" and turned and watched the telly again..
Strange because the night before Id watched the last episode of my "trigger program" its all about married, single and other couples and of course some are split, some are getting married, enough to make you feel a bit weepy in places.. its been on six weeks now so H has got used to me being a weepy on monday between 9-10pm lol!
But watch this space not mind reading of course but maybe some feelings are gonna come up soon!
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Hi LR-don't get over here much so glad to see that all is going well in your world!!! Whatever you are doing is working! Keep patient...the communication will come!!!
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LR is certainly doing something right, more than something right considering all the other stressors that are out there right now! LR you are the poster child for how to keep a PMA going strong!
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. I know this week has been brutal, but it's truly a good sign that connection is deepening in spite of the crisis.