I read some of your thread in Newcomers and stuff.
Listen it's not too late!!
Are you dead? Nope, so no it's not too late.
What most of us were doing at the beginning wasn't working, so now it's time for us to do something different.
Some of us it takes time to get it. I still bounce all over the place, but I sure know now what wasn't working.
GF you have given birth to two children, you got one all the way to adult hood, go back to your post, everyone including you saw yourself as strong, when it comes to MLC and I agree with HB, we do become the opposite of what we were.
But as a mother you already have the instinct to be the strength.
For us to even get to the place we know where we'll be ok, we have to be able to pick ourselves off the floor.
If you don't have the daughter this weekend, get all over this forum.
You will find inspiration, something you struggled with understanding or doing will be explained a different way and you can have an AHAH moment.
The new thread is awesome that about the stages of grief that we go through and it gives us the permission to hold out as long as we the LBS' want to.
But the key to everything, is WE have to get our self esteem and our strength up, that's the first part of our journey.
I'm like you I'm always thinking and talking to myself. But it has gotten a lot easier on me, once I started to detach.
We have to get ourselves to a point where the MLC'er is missing out on us, not us on them, regardless we have the good and bad memories if they ever ask for them back.
There is pride and hope in that.
Be the old you a little bit, I know if I ticked my wife off, I got the silent treatment and she did what she was going to do AND LOOK AT THAT SHE IS.
Time for you to start doing the same.
And take you and your daughter to get a manicure:)
