Just saying that you really can't make blanket statements like that. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Other Forums that specialize in MLC and infidelity actually seem to show that after exposure it made things worse.
OK, first, its not a Blanket statement, I just said I haven't seen one, I didn't say there aren't any.. THAT would be a blanket statement. Also, I made a clear point that attributing CAUSE is a very delicate think to try to do and to be wary, but you went and did it anyways claiming "sometimes it doesnt'" And I agree with puppy, I don't buy what people having affairs or having had affairs say they would do in that situation, its just like MWD says - ignore 100% of what they say.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
"5. Family - this kinda stuff brings families closer. It gives them a chance to jump in and help you out when you really need it"
This is also a bit misleading. The family usually gets torn because they feel they have to choose between one person or the other. And the majority of the time they will side with the one whom they have a blood relation to. That's been shown all over this board. Same as the friends. They feel "obligated" to choose one over the other. I've had alot of personal experience with that. It's tough. Most of them will walk the fence or cut ties to both because they don't want to be included in the drama or be seen as a "traitor".
The idea is to try. Yes, it doesn't always help, there are tons of posts on this forum where talking to family members did didly squat.
Originally Posted By: MrBond
I'm all for the confidence and dignity though. Although if you want that, you might as well just bypass exposure and go straight for D.
Just my 2 cents.
You think walking out on your partner and deliberately fracturing your family into a divorce brings you confidence and dignity? Seriously? I SERIOUSLY doubt THAT.
