Puppy, can you please post a link to your sitch? I looked for it and didn't find it.
I used to post as "Chocolateeyes," before the "St. Valentine's Day Massacre" got me and several others banned, for speaking our minds about some of the areas we felt DB fell short when it comes to Infidelity situations.
Here's a link. My wife's affair began in May 2007, and ended in August 2007, if you want to cut thru the thousands of posts and dozens of threads.
[url= http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=userposts&id=5518&view=posts&page=1]Choc's Old Posts[/url]