I guess I could fall into that category...but as CB and allen said- it's measured over time.
I exposed A1- busted it and it fell apart...W went through withdrawals for about a week...then she met OM2, and moved out...by the time I exposed A2 (btw- she always denied A1 and no one believed me) MIL had already met OM2...there was alot of stress as mutual friends were involved...
Rather han denying A2- she and OM2 made their R official, W dropped her M'd name on FB and the rest, seemingly is history.
W is "in love" w/ OM2, having sex, and feels no guilt...MIL won't communicate w/ me, and all W's friends support her in her decision and do not judge her (outwardly).
Do I know what will happen from here? No. W still has not filed, and we don't speak anymore.
Sadly I still love her and would like for the M to work...
I think if W has already made clear to her friends and supports that she is unhappy, done, and GOING TO D- then exposure may not do any good, other than Allen's points of what it will do for you as a man and a LBS- those strengthenings of confidence and character are always much needed.
However if OM is M'd or something, I think 1) it's just the moral and correct thing to do- and 2) the A busting may help the M, as OM would likely recommit to his M.
