I hear you loud and clear- I dont know why my love for W hasn't been depleted yet...it seems as though I love her more than I love myself and that's just wrong.
I know that we LBS's tend to romanticize the R and that we also blame ourselves for a lot- so thats the key- to understand that yes we know our parts and are willing to address them w/ or w/o WAS.
It is effing tough, especially w/ OM in the pic.
He will prove himself to be a douche.
I have to share this...
I am not exaggerating this- since high school I've had 3 LT R's...each one, after we broke up- M'd the next person they were w/...there was also one short term R where that happened as well.
Two of the four are miserable w/ their H's...
I thought my luck had changed when I M'd- I thought that there would be second chances and TIME...
You are not alone, there is alot of ugliness out there, and OP are often highly selfish.
Be the better man, the better option...you are fortunate b/c you have a child w/ W...you are forever in her life- and being the best you can be for you is essential, but being the best Dad you can be is going to help you more than anything else.
Hope my story doesnt rub you he wrong way- obv that's what I fear in my sitch- I should not project, but I am 4 for 4...
