Snodderley, I thank you for your reply. Ex is still contacting son, in fact they have been out all day today together, no change there. What I have noticed though is ex has stopped contacting me since this blowout last week, he has gotten into the habit of texting or calling me when making any plans with son, especially when picking him up for his rugby match which was today, but no contact all week, ah well I have lived through no contact before sure I can do it again, maybe he thinks I am doing wrong by doing his old aunts shopping for her, nevermind x