rr22, your post does make sense. I believe our problems are fixable, and I won't stop holding that opinion. I do not believe that D is a solution or even an option, and I won't stop expressing that. I know that attempting to convince or persuading with words is not going to change anything dramatically, but I can show him with my actions. I can make him a believer by continuing my positive changes and by demonstrating them.
Like you, I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, but I'm not completely convinced that H doesn't want to be with me. He has just said he's afraid he could never be happy here again and that things would never change. That leaves me some room to work.
Thanks for reminding me to be honest as I listen to H and to not waste my time on words intended to persuade or convince.
