How valuable it has been not been a douchebag to her family during this 12 years of relationship. It has paid. They trust me. They've offered me support, etc. Of course, I won't treat them as my friends right now but they're making it easier for me to go through this.
Frace, you have some "political capital" here to spend. But you're looking for OUTWARD SIGNS from your wife's family, and -- at this very early stage, post-bomb -- you're not going to get that. And, from some of them, you may NEVER get it, as sad as that is going to make you (it tore me up inside). But deep down, they know what "The Right Thing to Do" is when they see it.
So you just focus on letting them see it in the days and weeks ahead.
