Thank you so much for trying to help me understand. I guess I did all of the wrong things and now I'm worried that I messed up for the past 16 months and made it worse.
It's just that he confuses me so much and the kids. He just said to our D13 3 weeks ago that if he came back to the house he wouldn't know how he would get along with S19. Then a 1 1/2 weeks ago he is texting me asking if I need help with the pool. Water is on the cover and it needs to be taken off so I said yes. But then he didn't come do it, we got together instead. And when he dropped D13 off last week from a visit he didn't do it then either.
I was reading posts on here from years ago and it says to love them no matter what. Do I let him know that we love and miss him deeply. It says that they (MLCrs) need to know that. Is that part true. I'm standing for this marriage but I'm at a loss now that it seems after all of this time he is going through a MLC. And I was on Newcomers for almost a year.
OP, I can't thank you enough for everything you've done for me. Yes I am on antidepressants. It took 4 different ones before they finally started to help a little and to stop me from losing weight. But the Dr. tells me that pills are not going to stop this alone and that I need to help myself too.
I'm really trying but with the panic attacks that came along with the depression it is very very hard to GAL and to stop thinking. The panic attacks happen when I drive so I don't want to go anywhere at all.
