I exposed my wife's affair, ended it within three months, and my wife and I reconciled nearly three years ago.
Puppy
With all due respect Puppy, it wasn't as clear cut as that and I think your synopsis gives a slightly false impression.
I know it would take too long for you to explain everything here, but you have had a hard long road to travel and from what I know of your sitch 'proper' reconciliation has taken a long time and huge amounts of hard work on your part.
I think what a lot of posters don't understand is that 'busting' the A is just the start of the long hard road.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength