I really don't know what to say to her right now. I kind of exploded last night and when I went to see her on the sofa, she looked at me and said, "What?!" I just said, "I just wanted to say 'good morning' and I'm sorry about last night".
YOU SAID THIS TO HER????
And that's exactly what you have done in the past, Ken, and it's enabling, and that sort of "pleasing/supplicating/rescuing" behavior has led to your current marital state. How's that workin' out for ya? (Dr. Phil)
YES, YOU LEAVE HER ALONE. If she says anything to you, you say "I'm sorry you feel that way."
Look, Ken, if you have an angry outburst, then apologize for your anger. And certainly, if you do something genuinely wrong, then apologize for THAT. But DO NOT apologize for fighting for your marriage, nor your boundary of "I will not live in an open marriage."
This supplicating behavior of yours not only DOESN'T WORK, I can assure you, she sees it as WEAK and UNATTRACTIVE.
