A question - Is it possible for my wife and the OM to "just be friends"? They supposedly are not seeing each other any more. Suppose they stop telling each other "I love you"? Am I being ridiculous to make such a big deal out of them talking on the phone?
Ken,
BEST case, theirs is a one-sided love/EA, where this man is in love with your wife and pursuing her. So, in this case, do you REALLY think it would be emotionally healthy for you to live in a marriage where your wife carries on a friendship with such a man? Would YOU feel safe in such a relationship?
You have stated what your boundary is. ("I will not live in an open marriage.") Even IF this were "just a friendship" (and I don't think either one of us believes that it is, do you?) -- Your wife has, in effect, chosen to place that friendship ahead of her marriage, which is just plain WRONG.
