Lotus (and others, of course) - please help me - just found out that DH is having a PA - we're scheduled to do Retrouvaille on 4/16. I want to expose the PA to OWH and friends (he introduced her to them) - but don't know what to do. The second thread below is about my discovery last night... I need expert advice on whether I expose before or after Retrouvaille. I know they say no third parties, but I have to believe some people lie about that, right? I'm so afraid if I expose it, he will not go and I'm looking at this as one of our last shots. I had thought about exposing to OWH and OW on the way to Retrouvaille so that we're offline for three days and she has to deal with the fallout from the exposure without having him around to lean on. (he has no cell phone and I'd make sure he didn't have his computer with him) I'm also thinking about going to his friends, one who was the best man at our wedding and asking them to not accept her into their lives until such time as D is announced - to give us space. I know he told them that he's always loved her and we dont' have any love left, but I have the old posts from his last EA in 2005 to show friends that he's been there done this before. I think friends are honest and mature enough to back off and let us deal with it on our own.
