The Good Soil Of Love

[Concerned_Listener]

Doc,
Thanks for the encouragement. I do think small steps can eventually lead to major changes.

My W and I spent the day together. It was a beautiful spring day. We started off with a dance lesson. My W is enjoying her developing relationship with her dance teacher. She said that her years of instruction are beginning to come together. I had a lesson with a lady dance teacher. She worked on me being more expressive with my body. She also wants me to have more of a presence when I lead. She said that I seem to know dance concepts but need to learn how to translate that into body movement. I hope she can teach me. I'm going to schedule some private lessons with her.

My W and I went to breakfast. She decided that instead of taking a nap, she wanted to take our dog to the dog park. She's been watching a dog training show on television, and wanted to practice her techniques. I let her be in charge. The dog does respond well to my W's leadership. My W made a comment during the day, that she needs to be in charge of something.

When we came home we practiced our dance routine, and tried to incorporate the day's lessons. She notice that I took my routine to a higher level. She said that I was beginning to look like John Travolta.

We decided to try a dance venue that our instructor's recommend. It's a jazz lounge that offers dancing. I had forgotten the difficulties we have when just my W and I go dancing. I want to enjoy myself, and she turns it into a ballroom boot camp. She kept barking feedback at me to correct this and that, which is fine when we're practicing, but not on a Saturday night. She got angry that I wasn't responding to her feedback, which led to another long car ride home. She threatened to find a dance partner who is serious like she is, and aspires to the level she does. She said that I don't appreciate her as a partner.

All of a sudden she is having this ballroom awakening. She was absent all of last year, when I went to my own lessons. Even at our new studio, I would go to lessons myself. Her primary involvement has been her own private lessons, until the Hustle Formation team. Things are percolating with our dance relationhip, so we'll see how that evolves.

She's been helping her dance friend try to reconcile with his girlfriend. They apparently spent four hours on the phone and are patching things up. He needs a life of his own, and for his house to sell, so that he can move on.

CL