Q: IF I expose, is it best for me to wait the three weeks for Retrouvaille and expose all at once? Because I am tempted to go to best man today with MIL/FIL and ask him to stop supporting it now, and ask that he keep secret that I know... and rely on his values to hope he will keep it secret. I think I know him well enough to know there's a chance he will keep secret, but his loyalty to DH may win out over his loyalty to his own sense of right/wrong, in which case exposure will be sped up and I'll lose the element of surprise.
