"I don't recall reading a post here when exposure actually made an affair worse. I have read posts where there was fallout... tantrums, threats, fury, even rage... but never heard of a case yet where the cheating spouse upped the ante as a result of their LBS revealing what they were doing in secret."
There were several although once things got bad, the posters stopped posting. I think BigJohn was one. There was another post here where the the person exposed to everyone who would listen and they ended up getting engaged.
Just saying that you really can't make blanket statements like that. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Other Forums that specialize in MLC and infidelity actually seem to show that after exposure it made things worse.
"5. Family - this kinda stuff brings families closer. It gives them a chance to jump in and help you out when you really need it"
This is also a bit misleading. The family usually gets torn because they feel they have to choose between one person or the other. And the majority of the time they will side with the one whom they have a blood relation to. That's been shown all over this board. Same as the friends. They feel "obligated" to choose one over the other. I've had alot of personal experience with that. It's tough. Most of them will walk the fence or cut ties to both because they don't want to be included in the drama or be seen as a "traitor".
I'm all for the confidence and dignity though. Although if you want that, you might as well just bypass exposure and go straight for D.
Just my 2 cents.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
