robx this crap is hard as he!!. I wan't to argue back just like you say, but all the advice we get on here says not to. I get the impression we're supposed to treat the WAW with kid gloves. I don't wan't to sit there and take the blame for something that isn't all my fault.
All I keep hearing is validate, validate, validate. doesn't that mean sit there like a little b!tch and take the blame for everything? We don't have to leave our spines behind while we have this talk with them?
I know almost everything she throws is going to have a very valid rebuttal, but where do i draw the line?
I'm not a big fan of this validating idea. And no it doesn't mean sit there like a little bitch and take the blame for everything, that would suck and your human and you could only keep that up for so long until you exploded and unloaded back on her twice as much as she gave you.
You could say "yeah I agree with you, financially it would be great to be in a better position but I'm only one person and couldn't do it all by myself, I needed help, everyone does, you're an adult, you were with me the whole time, you could have helped, you could have been more on top of this just as much as I could have been, I won't take 100% of the blame for this, just like our relationship, there is a dual responsibility involved here, not just single."
