Need a Plan for My Marriage

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Hi sandie2,

You post is all good advice and makes sense. I have been doing my best to gain respect and be given respect. It is harder to do once it is lost. Does gaining respect mean fighting because I had my fair share of those this weekend. I have tried to avoid them, but I am having a harder time of just being "quiet" about our situation or accepting of her behavior. I have been sticking up for myself and discussing our problems with her making threats that I have seen cause some concern for her when she was so sure of what would happen if we divorce. She said, "she would have to check to make sure with her attorney." I told her be confident because you are going to need it if you decide to fight for divorce instead of our marriage. Some of Steve's words. Thanks Steve!

When I told her "no" to something and did not back down, she did call to let me know why she went out and if I needed anything. I never wavered from my decision or did I back down.

Is that what you mean when you say I need to gain my self respect back. Please let me know with some ways to do that. I am not being walked on anymore as much. I do still choose my battles which will not be the case when I have done some exposing and putting boundaries whether she likes it or not.

I do appreciate your honest comements.