And more to the point, its hard to isolate Exposure as being the driver of busting an affair up or not.
Exposure is tricky and this is not a precise process here.
The idea of saying I did x, and that saved my marriage is a bit presumptuous. I can say with confidence that exposure in my case did have a strong influence on my partner, I had countless arguments about who who knows what and how upset she was over it.
Did it cause the affair to end?
How can you isolate a first cause here?
You can ask "how many people have had the affair in their home END and exposure was done in that case?"
Isolating which affairs included exposure as a tactic you can look for some correlation, but heck...
It is further hard to say if exposure CAUSES an affair to aggravate and get worse... how would any of us know with any level of confidence that - ok, I exposed and BECAUSE of that the affair is now worse... how on earth can we say that?
There are SO MANY VARIABLES at play during an affair isolating causes makes little sense.
I can tell you this : There was exposure of the affair in my home, and the affair IS OVER, its been over five months now with zero contact.
How much impact exposure had? Who knows, but I am glad I did it.
