I still get confused at times, as how to handle situation with my ex. Do I help her out when asked, or not? Its not the issue of me feeling like a doormat, or is it, I dont know. I am stronger now, and I dont think I let her walk all over me, lie I used to.
A good book I read was "Love must be tough" by Dr Dobson. It gave me great insight on being loving and tough, and about how WASes feel trapped.
I am rereading now, after our D. We are friendly and get along, but maybe I need to be less available now.
"Don't be readily available, don't answer your phone or messages right away if at all. Give her exactly what she thinks she wants, life WITHOUT YOU." ~ That was a quote from a different post in this forum.
You need to get strong, and play the Man! You will be more worthy of respect that way. Learn to say No. But dont be cruel! Oh and it is true. You can be sad, but you dont have to repulse her even more with a whiny baby attitude. Maybe just play neutral, keep your "cards" close to you. And of course read Divorce Busters?/ Remedy !!! And some of Michelle's videos are on youtube.
M/30s WAW/30s 4 children S 1 yr LS 8 months OM / just a friend 1 1/2 YR D 1 month
